Lose the Fear of Starting Over and Boss Your Future Today!

 Twice in my life, I have had to start over. Reset. Go back to the beginning. And the third one is doubtless just around the corner. At the end of the day, there is no easy way to start over, and sometimes you just have to take the plunge. Nobody knows what the future holds. I mean, who among us could have seen this global pandemic happening 12 months ago?! We never know what might happen just around the corner, and this is why it’s important to try to plan and prepare for the future

It doesn’t matter whether it’s the end of a career, relationship, property, or unhealthy lifestyle, we all experience changes and fresh starts in our lives. Starting over doesn’t always go the way you think it’s going to and in this new post for What’s In the Middle?, I’m going to explore how you can overcome the fear of starting over, and take charge of your life right now.

I am listing a few examples of how I have had to start over again and again and how I have overcome certain situations with perseverance and meditation. Its been a tough journey however as my mum once told me life is happening for you even when you are overcoming certain situations you just have to trust the process. I never realised what it all meant until now. TRUST THE PROCESS 

 Plans failing

 For instance, this time last year I was planning multiple visits to the UK to see my mother for the first time in over 3 years. Just as I got my paperwork the lockdown hit, so I wasn’t able to make the trip.

 This was upsetting, and much like many people in the world, I was distressed about my parents and their health, and was keen to connect with them in whichever way I could during this time. This led to me calling and video chatting with my mum every day, connecting with her digitally, and developing positive habits.

 It has been a worrying and severe time for a lot of people, and we’ve all had to make lifestyle adjustments, but one of the important things to take from this is that change is inevitable. It’s also necessary for helping you live your best life and blossom as an individual.

 Job Changes

 I remember when I made the first big change in my life - I switched careers from my highly paid banking job and take a much lower paid career as a school teacher. It was one of the scariest decisions I’ve ever made, and I didn’t know whether it was the right financial decision. But it was me following my bliss, and it was ultimately the best decision I ever made. I wouldn’t know it at the time, but I was and am able to use my school teaching skills in the USA amongst other skills I have acquired along the time whilst making scary changes.

Getting my Degree

I was insignificant debt at the time because I was determined to get the degree my parents wanted me to get, but it wasn’t what I really wanted to do; I wasn’t being true to myself. And I suffered lots of losses along the way (the car being stolen, mounting debts, moving university, etc), but I started again and kept moving forward. Now, looking back, I would not have changed a thing as these decisions I made have led me to the life I have at the moment. All those struggles were totally worth it, as I now am able to apply my computing skills in my business.

I never realised how much this would play a role in my life at the time, but I kept moving forward, pushing on, and seizing opportunities that came my way.

As a result of this decision, I am now working towards being a proud citizen of the United States, and I run my own business which I absolutely adore. The upshot of this is that sometimes you need to take a leap forward and do what you are passionate about, regardless of whether it might not seem right at the time.

Healthy Eating  

Something else I have discovered through my career path is the benefits of fitness and sports in helping to move forward. See, this doesn’t always have to mean trying something new; in fact, a lot of the time it can simply involve challenging yourself, working on your health and fitness, and make pertinent lifestyle changes. Look, I won’t lie, this will be challenging, but once your body gets used to water instead of Coke, to salads instead of burgers, and to improving your well-being, this is a great way of helping you with starting over. The results are not imminent, however, you are making progress, and progress always leads to success, even if you have to try again and again. I mean, its kind of common sense right?! Especially when it comes down to changing your diet. Boy, a glass of Coke feels good and so does a juicy burger, but you need to limit your intake. Treat yourself once a week. Gain control of YOU!

 This is one of the key reasons for What’s In the Middle? being launched, and I will be using it to explore these kinds of lifestyle challenges. Giving room and time to the process of moving forward is so important, and this is something I hope you will explore with me.

Relationships failing

Other examples of starting over can be found in other areas of life. For instance, my relationships are another way of starting over. I have been in a few relationships in my life, which have ended organically, and I learned a lot from each of them. I learnt that are two people in every relationship, and there are very few problems that can not be worked through. But I also learned that sometimes a relationship is not right for you, and moving on is an important step in your future.

Process your state of mind, talk it out and the MOVE FORWARD

 Moving on is necessary to get to the next stage of your life and be the best person you can possibly be. Starting over is really important even though important, even though it might not seem so at the time. No matter how much it might seem like you’ve failed, life is happening In the background, it just might take you years to realize it.

Having said all this, it is necessary for you to at least give yourself room to process what has happened whilst making these changes. Because if you don’t then you will botte things up, and they will manifest in negative ways, which could be far more damaging.

Take accountability for mistakes, but do not dwell on them. Recognize areas you could have improved on, but do not dwell on them and feel sorry for yourself. Learn from your mistakes, forgive yourself, and move on. Give yourself an opportunity to breathe and allow for emotions to arise, instead of hiding them.

Conclusion

You always have a choice in life, and the choices you make can shape your future. Always try to make sure you make decisions that help you move forward and keep your life positive. Whether this is ending a toxic relationship, quitting a stressful job, or buying a house, there are so many decisions you can make that will help you start over and boss your future today.

The future is unknown, and sometimes we need to take a leap of faith to get the outcome we want from our lives. Don’t be afraid of failure, this is often necessary to achieve success, and without my failure and experiences, I would not have a job I love and a life that fulfils me.

Keep checking out What’s In the Middle? each week to ensure you can learn and grow from the life experiences that we examine and explore here.

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