Lose the Fear of Starting Over and Boss Your Future Today!

 Twice in my life, I have had to start over. Reset. Go back to the beginning. And the third one is doubtless just around the corner. At the end of the day, there is no easy way to start over; sometimes, you just have to take the plunge. Nobody knows what the future holds. Who among us could have seen this global pandemic happening 12 months ago?! We never know what might happen just around the corner, so trying to plan and prepare for the future is essential.

It doesn't matter whether it's the end of a career, relationship, property, or unhealthy lifestyle; we all experience changes and fresh starts in our lives. Starting over doesn't always go how you think it's going to, and in this new post for What's In the Middle? I will explore how you can overcome the fear of starting over and take charge of your life.

I am listing a few examples of how I have had to start over again and again and how I have overcome certain situations with perseverance and meditation. It's been an arduous journey; however, as my mum once told me, life is happening for you. Even when overcoming certain situations, you just have to trust the process. I just realised wrealizedll meant now. TRUST THE PROCESS 

 Plans failing

 For instance, this time last year, I was planning multiple visits to the UK to see my mother for the first time in over three years. The lockdown hit just as I got my paperwork, so I couldn't make the trip.

 This was upsetting, and much like many people in the world, I was distressed about my parents and their health and was keen to connect with them in whichever way I could during this time. This led to me calling and video chatting with my mum daily, connecting with her digitally, and developing positive habits.

 Many people have experienced a worrying and severe time, and we've all had to make lifestyle adjustments, but one of the essential things to take from this is that change is inevitable. It's also necessary for helping you live your best life and blossom as an individual.

 Job Changes

 I remember when I made the first significant change in my life - I switched careers from my highly-paid banking job and took a much lower-paid career as a school teacher. It was one of the scariest decisions I've ever made, and I didn't know whether it was the right financial decision. But it was me following my bliss and, ultimately, the best decision I ever made. I can't say it then, but I was and can use my school teaching skills in the USA, amongst other skills I have acquired while making scary changes.

Getting my Degree

I was in insignificant debt at the time because I was determined to get the degree my parents wanted me to get, but it wasn't what I really wanted to do; I wasn't being true to myself. I suffered many losses (stolen car, mounting debts, moving to university, etc), but I started again and kept moving forward. Looking back, I would not have changed a thing as these decisions I made have led me to the life I have now. All those struggles were worth it, as I can now apply my computing skills to my business.

I never realised how much it affected my life at the time, but I kept moving forward, pushing on, and seizing opportunities that came my way.

As a result of this decision, I am now working towards being a proud citizen of the United States and running my own business, which I absolutely adore. The upshot is that sometimes you need to take a leap forward and do what you are passionate about, regardless of whether it seems right at the time.

Healthy Eating  

Something else I have discovered through my career path is the benefits of fitness and sports in helping to move forward. See, this doesn't always mean trying something new; it can often involve challenging yourself, working on your health and fitness, and making pertinent lifestyle changes. Look, I won't lie, this will be challenging, but once your body gets used to water instead of Coke, to salads instead of burgers, and to improve your well-being, this is an excellent way of helping you with starting over. The results are not imminent. However, you are making progress, which always leads to success, even if you must try repeatedly. I mean, it's kind of common sense, right?! Especially when it comes down to changing your diet. Boy, a glass of Coke and a juicy burger feel good, but you must limit your intake. Treat yourself once a week. Gain control of YOU!

 This is one of the critical reasons for launching What's In the Middle? I will use it to explore these kinds of lifestyle challenges. It is so important to give room and time to the process of moving forward, and I hope you will explore this with me.

Relationships failing

Other examples of starting over can be found in different areas of life. For instance, my relationships are another way of starting over. I have been in several relationships that have ended organically, and I learned a lot from each. I knew two people were in every relationship, and very few problems could not be solved. But I also learned that sometimes a relationship is unsuitable for you, and moving on is essential to your future.

Process your state of mind, talk it out and the MOVE FORWARD

 Moving on is necessary to get to the next stage of your life and be your best person. Starting over is essential, even though it might not seem so at the time. No matter how much it might seem like you've failed, life is happening In the background; it just might take you years to realize it.

To realise all this, you must give yourself room to process what has happened while making these changes. If you don't, you will bottle things up, and they will manifest in negative ways, which could be far more damaging.

Take accountability for mistakes, but do not dwell on them. Recognize areas where you have improved, but do not dwell on them and feel sorry for yourself. Learn from your mistakes, forgive yourself, and move on. Allow yourself to breathe and allow emotions to arise instead of hiding them.

Conclusion

You always have a choice in life, and your choices can shape your future. Always make decisions that help you move forward and keep your life positive. Whether this is ending a toxic relationship, quitting a stressful job, or buying a house, there are so many decisions you can make that will help you start over and boss your future today.

The future is unknown, and sometimes, we need to leap of faith to get the outcome we want from our lives. Don't fear failure; it is often necessary to achieve success. Without my failures and experiences, I would not have a job I love and a life that fulfils me.

Keep checking out What's In the Middle. We ensure you can learn and grow each week from the life experiences we examine and explore here.

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This is my personal view, and I understand if you disagree.